First thing first, I am trying to keep up with blogging every week but it has been a struggle! I’m not gonna let you guys down so here is a 2 for 1 to close out our series this month. It’s a combo, hair, and body. Can we talk about this without being shamed? I have natural hair that I love but I also love a good weave. Y’all gonna let me be diverse right? I often were weaves and crochets to protect my natural hair but I am very careful to use products that my hair loves! Depending on the function you may catch me wearing either at any given time. You might also catch me wearing a weave in the store and come outside and I’m rocking braids….that’s a whole different story. Here is a flip side to that, my husband prefers natural hair.
Here are the current products I use and the products that I am adding to my cabinet.
Maui Moisture Lightweight Hydration + Hibiscus Water Shampoo and Conditioner
TGIN Moisture Rich Sulfate-Free Shampoo
TGIN Triple Moisture Replenishing Conditioner
TGIN Rose Water Sulfate-Free Shampoo
TGIN Rose Water Frizz-Free Hydrating Conditioner
TGIN Hydrating Hair Mask
As you can see I am loving the TGIN (Thank God Its Natural) product line. I love a good smelling shampoo and conditioner. These products help with detangling and leave my natural hair manageable and hydrated. If you get a chance to try it let me know!!
NOW SERVING BODY!!
We not talking about health. There are enough posts and blogs about that subject. We are talking about taking care of your actual body and the skin that’s on it. I love me some smooth and moisturized skin! I can see it from a mile away glowing with all that melanated goodness! Just a little FYI…I’m a recovering bath addict. LOL, I can take a shower after a shower just because I love the relaxing and calming time. Some of my best days included a long bath. This is of course pre-child but we are working on getting back there. Here are some of my favorite products and they are super simple.
Dove Pampering Body Wash with Shea Butter and Warm Vanilla
Raw Shea Butter (Local Buy)
Variety of soaps from Bluff City Soaps
So this is my one recommendation. Find a great soap shop and products that make you and your body feel good. My life has been improved since I stumbled on Bluff City. I’ve found natural soaps that do not break my sensitive skin out, smell amazing, and are reasonably priced. If you are in the Tennessee area, let’s go shopping sometimes! What are some of your favorite products?
Invest in your Skin…. It’s going to represent you for a long time
So to get things in some kind of order, I decided to start posting monthly series instead of random topics all the time. There will still be pop up topics, but I want to make sure that I’m giving you something that you need and want to hear. Let’s talk about skincare. I’ve never considered myself to have “good skin”. It has always in my opinion taken a lot of work just to minimize breakouts and maintain an overall tone for my skin. I have always struggled with two things. The first is skin discoloration. The areas around my cheekbones have always been a little different in color from the rest of my face. The second is the dryness of my skin. After being outdoors my skin would eventually feel extremely itchy and flaky. At first, I thought it may have been eczema but once I starting using a consistent moisturizer it helped. Turns out that #1 I was allergic to grass and pollen, #2 I had the driest skin in history. Side Note: I am not a medical professional and I am just describing the current day to day products that I use. These do not include my monthly mask and let us just be clear, my skincare regime depends on my coins at the time. I’ve used the Fashion Fair system but I am not sure if they still carry this in the stores anymore. One of the best department store skincare systems that I have used is the “Clinique Great Skin Everywhere System” because we want great skin everywhere right?
Anywho, here are the products that I use every day:
Cetaphil Daily Facial Cleanser
Cetaphil Moisturizing Lotion
Nivea Face Moisturizer
Cetaphil Redness Prone Skin Foaming Face Wash (As needed)
T.N Dickinson’s Witch Hazel: 100% Natural Astringent
I am a huge fan of drugstore beauty finds. These products can be purchased at Ulta, Target, or Walmart. The witch hazel is used to remove any excess on your face after the cleanser. I pay special attention to this after taking off makeup. These are no substitutes for healthy eating and drinking your water but they assist with maintaining some of the issues I mentioned above. What are some of your Beauty basics? Comment and let me know! Maybe I will give some of those a try. Hit the subscribe button and come back for Part 2 of this series!!
Pageant Tip: When preparing for a pageant, I drink a gallon of distilled water per day. Your girl skin be looking like GOD himself reached down and touched me on the cheek!
We’re family, right? I am starting to believe that I am suffering from a serious case of reverse parental FOMO. Just hear me out…
Maybe a year into having my son, I remember feeling like I had no friends. I wasn’t going anywhere, talking to anyone, or doing anything. The truth of the matter was that I didn’t want to, so it was cool. I was completely consumed with my “ Alexander the Great”. Well, eventually I started to miss brunch and talking to my girlfriends. I started to do a couple of things now and then and “BOOM” 3 years later, I am back to my normal self. SN: Y’all it took me that long. Okay fast forward to now and we have been on quarantine for a while now and I’m enjoying it! This blog for the week is simply an ask for other parents to do the same.
Reverse Parental FOMO: Described as the “fear of missing out” on parental duties due to time constraints, duties, or tasks.
I made that definition up so if you work for Webster or Wikipedia…Chill. Since my little one has been home for 5 months now, I am amazed to see how quickly he learns and all the things that he can do. Who knew? While hustling and surviving…Good Times, I was missing out on so much time I never knew I needed with my son. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am completely over playing monster trucks, hot wheels, and listening to Old Town Road but sooner than later we will be back to work and I’ll be missing all these moments. It kinda makes me sad.
We only have a small amount of time to make a big impression. We’ve been given a little more time than expected so its a great time to make the best of it! What have you guys been doing at home with the kids? Here are my top five things we’ve done in the past month.
#1 We learned to ride a bike
#2 We painted on our first family canvas
#3 We learned the “Savage ” TikTok ( No judgment)
#4 We made homemade pizza for the first time
#5 We finally stopped watching Space Jam every night.
Bonus: He spent the night with his auntie for the first time.. I only cried twice
Until next…. stay cool! Its hot AF outside
“I want to be remembered as someone who used herself and anything she could touch to work for justice and freedom…. I want to be remembered as one who tried. Dorothy Height
Don’t get it twisted black women have always been nurturers. We have always processed the innate desire within us to always want to see the most successful outcome in any situation sometimes to our detriment. African American women are dynamic and I believe that sometimes that can be overlooked by different stereotypes that may be whispered about us in the shadows. In 2006, BET (Black Entertainment Television) started an awards show called “Black Girls Rock”. This show highlighted the achievements of black women in different areas. Although many people opposed the show’s title and still currently disagree with a show specifically for black women, I believe it helped to draw a parallel that Black Girls really can rock too! When you think back during slavery times and even as current as of the 60s and 70s, have you ever wondered how the African American women could take care of their owners’ families as if they were their own? How someone could be so gentle but so strong at the same time. The photo of the house in the post above is called “The Walters Place” in Holly Springs, Mississippi, which is my hometown. My grandmother served as a maid in this home during the 60s and 70s. My mother often played there while my grandmother was at work. Today we stopped by to view the home. Although the Pilgrimage that is normally held in Holly Springs was canceled this year due to COVID, the owner was very gracious to us in chatting about the house. Although he was not the original owner he had a deep knowledge of the home’s history. It was a pleasant experience just sitting and talking. In addition to working there, my grandmother also had 12 children of her own. Dallis Lesure was the definition of strong, I’m struggling with 1 boy. I can remember her cooking 3 meals a day for my grandfather and always making sure that everyone could feel the love in their way. She made the best beef and gravy and rice pudding that I have ever tasted to this day. So who nurtures us when we nurture everyone else” Who’s gonna remove the hair out of our face? (See below…I love this picture by the way).
I’m sure my grandmother had many conversations with her sisters and friends offering and taking advice. They had a support system and were not afraid to uplift and energize each other. My grandparents had and currently still have fruit trees on their property. They have several apple trees, pears, plums, peaches, and a grapevine. My grandmother would make pies, jellies, and preserves from the fruit. This was her form of self-care. So, what are you doing for your self-care sis? Last week I posted about my new “Self-Care Saturday”, yall its been fun! I am looking forward to different activities that I can incorporate into the day. I’ve been writing, drawing, painting, reading, and of course partaking in my own form of fruit preservation. It is so important that you are whole when you encounter this world. If there is ever a point where you don’t have anyone to reach out to, you can reach out to me at email@example.com Until next time… here is a photo montage instead of my Saturday’s playlist.
Here are some fun facts! My grandmother and grandfather were married for over 60 years. They are both resting peacefully together now. My grandfather was one of the first black postmasters and bus drivers in Holly Springs. He may or may not have snuck Medgar Evers onto the campus of Ole Miss in his mail truck during the time that they were meeting to assist James Meredith with integrating the campus.
Hey, Y’all, Hopefully, you missed me as much as I missed you. Check yes or no. Writing during quarantine was not as difficult as writing with 100 things going on. When I tell you I have been on Zoom for hours each day. Listen.. is there a degree or something that you can get from all these zoom hours? Somebody email Malcolm Gladwell and ask him what’s up. Pause (For those that missed the reference: Gladwell has a book called “Outliers” that talks about having 10,000 hours in a specific thing will make you an expert in that thing) I’m asking for myself because this has been something else. From this day forward, I feel like I should be able to place a “ZM” behind my professional name that stands for Zoom Master.
So in the midst of Zooming with the homies, I have also had to balance emotions and decide on my approach in offering my statement regarding “Black Lives Matter”. It’s been heavy yall. I have a four-year-old son who loves to read, jump, can already add…. you already know. He is on the blog often so you know how amazing I think he is. This is not a moment, it’s a movement and everyone with have their part to play. Based on inspiration from one of my favorite shows “Insecure” I am starting Self Care Saturday. This should help to put me in a creative space so don’t go anywhere! You don’t want to miss what’s next. Check in below and let me know how your doing.
Until next time………. Don’t forget to fill your cup.
Apple Black Lives Matter Playlist
Alright: Kendrick Lamar
This is America: Childish Gambino
Pray for Love: Travis Scott
Glory: Common & John Legend
Black Effect: The Carters
What’s Going On: Marvin Gaye
The Story of OJ: Jay Z
Stay Woke: Meek Mill
The Bigger Picture: Lil Baby
Salary Kaep: Wale
Rockstar (BLM Remix) DaBaby
We will get into some of this summer fashion soon, besides its Gemini season so you know we have something special coming up. Now and then I like to drop a little nugget that has been given to me and pay it forward so here we go..
I’ve realized that I also have males that read my blog as well so for those purposes I will stop using the word sis, unless I really need it and in those instances hopefully my brothers understand. I was watching a commercial the other day and one of the actors said “ I almost made it” “ I almost climbed to the top”! Now, this kinda confused me because I’m thinking, Do you know how far you climbed?’’. The average person wouldn’t have achieved that but here he was minimizing what he had already done because he didn’t reach the peak.
I love me some Brandy but almost absolutely does count. Let’s think about this for a minute. I am not a fan of the trophy just for participating but I am down for finding the lesson in every experience and using that lesson to propel whatever it is I am doing forward. So you ALMOST got that dream job you wanted? You interviewed for the number one company, you even got to the last round of interviews but didn’t get the job. Does almost count in this situation? Yeah, it may not feel good but you got interview experience, you made it to the final round of a number one company and people know your name. What about that guy or girl you’ve been dating? You guys ALMOST had something? What could you pull from this situation? I know this week’s blog is short and sweet but don’t discount your “almost”. It the journey in almost that gets us to the destination and the goal. I hope that this message floats until it reaches that person that needs it most. I hope it encourages you to continue on your journey despite the obstacles that have been placed in your way.
Unless next time…… keep it classy
What happens to a dream deferred?
Does it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore—
and then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over—
like a syrupy sweet?
Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.
Or does it explode?
Harlem by Langston Hughes
This Langston Hughes poem was one of the first poems I can remember learning in school. I remember pondering as a child exactly what Mr. Hughes was talking about. How can a dream dry up and why would it smell like rotten meat? Now I know that this poem uses imagery and similes to compare how a dream delayed can spoil or rot, but this ain’t an English lesson. (Did you catch that?) As I embark on my new journey as Mrs. United States Classic Beauty International 2020, I think it’s important to let my tribe know how this pageant thing started and why I do what I do. I hope that by seeing those who are similar to you do things that may not seem possible, it inadvertently permits you to attempt the seemingly impossible dream or goal.
Let me start by saying I have always been this way. Throughout High School I was kinda reserved to people who didn’t know me and kinda dramatic to people who did know me. I am still the same way. I have always enjoyed dressing up as you can see in the very first picture. This was in the 5th grade at some kind of school ceremony with my grandmother. I remember thinking about how beautiful my pale pink dress looked and why I couldn’t put on more lipstick. Overtime my light didn’t necessarily go out but it did dim. Who knows what is happening when you’re going through adolescent angst, then you’re terrible twenties. Let’s not go into it now but my twenties had many highs but man did it have many lows.
Anywho, 2007 I entered the Miss Phat Pageant held by Zeta Phi Beta at Mississippi State University. During the same year I entered the American Beauties Plus Pageant in Atlanta Georgia as Miss Mississippi. To my astonishment I won the division. I entered the pageant not because I had always dreamed of pageantry but because it was something I felt was unattainable to me. You have probably heard this story before because I share it as often as possible, not to highlight my journey but to encourage you to take the next step. Sometimes it can be scary at times. As cliché as the phrase “Follow your dreams” is, it’s the most basic way to say have the courage to take action is. The dream that you’ve been holding out on, the investment that you have been waiting to make….let it happen. Figure out what has taken you away from your path and use those obstacles as stepping stones. The outside is still closed over here but until next time you’ve been quite enough! Wild out on those dreams. I’m interested in what goals and aspirations your working on starting today. Drop some in the comments and lets talk.
Saturdays Playlist: Matthew McConaughey University of Houston Speech on Youtube………. Thank me later
This post is a shout out to the village. Today is a celebration for all the moms out there. It takes a lot to not only bring a life into the world but to also raise this human being from something so small you can fit it into one hand to a fully functional adult. To put this into perspective you are raising a human being that will sooner than later start making decisions about what they want to wear, what schools they want to go to, who they want to date, and eventually who they want to leave you and spend their life with. My son is 4 and has just started telling me how he wants his hair cut. Full Disclosure…… it was an issue for me. I felt like I had at least till 8 or 9 before this happened. It’s not just decision making though. You’re also teaching the heavy stuff like tolerance, honesty, generosity, devotion, self-control, determination, and optimism. All of this to raise a human that is an asset to this world and a good person. As adults we are consistently trying to improve ourselves as well so you raising an adult while still trying to be a better adult. Adulting is hard.
So how do you handle it all? I can speak for myself when I say maybe I don’t have a village but I do have a small little tribe that I call my own. I have friends that I call for all of my WTF parenting questions, grandparents that check-in, and a Godparent whose sole joy is choosing the birthday cake every year. I share this day will them because they keep the ball rolling on this raising a human thing.
“ My daughter introduced me to myself” Beyonce Knowles. We all know I am part of the BeyHive, but just because it’s Mrs. Knowles-Carter let’s not let this quote get lost on you. My son definitely introduced me to myself. My patience is tested daily. My generosity and unconditional love were expanded. I interact with the world in the same manner that I would want the world to interact with my son. But it’s not just on me. I have a tribe that goes out of their way to help. So shout out to the village who consistently helps with the heavy lifting. We love you. Do you have a tribe? Shout some of them out in the comment section. Until next time….. Saturday’s playlist is below
No More Rain: Angie Stone
Lay Me Down: Sam Smith
You Got Me: The Roots & Erykah Badu
Savage Remix: Megan Thee Stallion & Beyonce
For Free: DJ Khaled feat Drake
Everybody Mad: O.T. Genasis
Kiss it Better: Rihanna
Loved by You: Kirby
Who’s Gonna (Nobody): Chris Brown
Tennessee Whiskey: Chris Stapleton
So this is the last of our quarantine edition and I wanted to make sure you guys were ready for Gemini season, I mean summer! My family will still be home for at least the month of May but that doesn’t mean we can’t be ready for when the outside opens up. Currently my wallet is hidden away for safekeeping cause your girl is a recovering shopaholic and the anxiety of the current situation got me relapsing like a hoe in a hen house. Pause… So that saying is something my grandmother used to say all the time. I’m still confirming exactly what this saying means but the longer we stay on quarantine the clearer it becomes. Rest in Heaven Cella Belle.
Anyway, back to the quarantine, Geminis, and summer. Have you guys been working on those summer bodies? Full disclosure, Yes I have been attempting to do some form of exercise at least every day. I drink protein shakes and I wear two different waist trainers. I’ll include them below for you. I eat according to quarantine rules which means when I feel like it I eat. If I don’t feel like eating, then I don’t eat anything. Yes, I have tried your virtual workout, your beginning yoga, Pilates, Hiit training, and twerk classes. Sometimes, I’m just not feeling it and sometimes you’re not feeling it either. Today I am telling you to do what you can do! Do what feels good and feels right. Nobody is promised tomorrow and I don’t want my description of today to be that I spent 4 out of the 24 hours in the downward dog position. Last week I did yoga 3 times out of the week. This week I only did 1. Maybe next week I will do 7.
The summer will get this body regardless. I’m seeing many crop tops, wide-leg pants, and maxi skirts in my immediate future, even if it is just around the house. Next week let’s get into some fashion and my first giveaway!! Leave a comment on the blog post with your favorite summer staple. Is it bomb glasses? What about prints? Your favorite lip gloss? I will be choosing one winner for a $20 gift card to Ulta Beauty to order some of your favorite makeup essentials! Yay, you.
Here are the deets on the waist trainers: Yellow (Along Fit Sweat Sauna Vest $25), Pink (Sweet Sweat Waist Trimmer for women $25). The Sweet Sweat is my favorite. I bought it about a year ago. Both items are from Amazon.
Until the outside opens….. Y’all keep it classy
Two things happened this week! I celebrated 16 years since joining Zeta Phi Beta Sorority inc. ZZZZZZ PHI and I attended Curves En Blanc Slay and Stay virtual All White Party sponsored by Maui Bigelow and Lane Bryant. I slayed and I stayed!
Alexa play “ Move” by Ludacris. So we have been quarantined a little over a month now. My husband and I both work in the school system so we have been at home since the beginning with our 4-year-old. We go out once a week for groceries and I have been ordering other things online. I have started to see a lot of post about wishing for a quarantine bae, heyyyyyyyy !! Are you sure sis? Are you really sure that’s what you want? I’m asking because I care about you? Bro, are you sure you want that type of commitment?
I mentioned that we have been quarantined for over a month right? So let’s look at what happens when a married couple is quarantined 24 hours a day. Let me give a disclaimer, my husband is younger than I am, he is a Pisces and I am a Gemini, and we have been married for 10 years. My Gemini side makes me appear younger sometimes because he is a homebody and I need 4th of July consistency constantly. So over the last couple of weeks he has been kind of laid back. We both have our work from home hours that we have been managing, but week 3, week 3 was a doozy. By week 3 we were both suffering from lack of a sleep pattern, not just for us but also for our 4-year-old. I remember on Wednesday of week 3, I woke up mad. Guys, when I opened my eyes and got out of bed I was already mad. Those of you that know me also know that I am rarely not smiling. This particular morning, I could feel the frown lines in my forehead. I asked my husband 100 different questions within a 15-minute increment. I was firing them off like a pistol. Later I had to come back and apologize. I had to think about it and say “why are you so upset”? I realized that it was just the frustration of waking up again with nowhere to go or nothing to do.
On another occasion, my husband got upset that I parked the car in an area that normally floods. My response was that I didn’t know it was even supposed to rain. We have had 496 of those little spats. Now, we realize that we have to stay busy and give each other the space required, even during the quarantine. I have cleaned every room in the house, redecorated the bedroom and moving to our son’s room next. All I’m saying is quarantine bae beware. 24/7 is not always pretty. Make sure you choose bae wisely and be willing to do the work while getting the work. We have switched our groceries runs to a solo event. This is MY time! Check out my playlist from today’s shopping run below.
Savage: Megan Thee Stallion
Truth Hurts: Lizzo
The Box: Roddy Ricch
Toosie Slide: Drake
Happiness Over Everything (H.O.E): Jhene Aiko
Find My Way: DaBaby
B.S. (feat. H.E.R.): Jhene Aiko
Know Your Worth: Khalid & Disclosure
The entire Dreamgirls soundtrack
Don’t you wanna dance with me? No?
I could dance like Michael Jaaaackson
One thing that is very important to me in establishing an online presence is making sure that I am connecting with my audience and they are connecting with me as well. In the about section of the blog I talk about how Creative Curves started. Today I wanted to give you a glimpse into the creator of Creative Curves. So, here we go.
Hey friends! My name is Yureka Pirtle, I am a millennial, a mom, a wife, a counselor and I am currently balancing about 20 more roles. I am from Holly Springs, Ms. It’s okay if you don’t know where that is right now. Just know it is the cutest retirement city that you could ever visit. When I wanted to take a break from the city normally I would just go to Mississippi. The reason that I have mentioned my city of birth is that I believe that it plays a huge part in the foundation of my personality. Friends and family would describe me as really laid back and quiet. However, I tend to get myself into a lot of trouble because my Gemini often takes over. I live for new experiences and the adrenaline rush! Now I am not talking about physical adrenaline, but the adrenaline that you get from doing something that you have never done before.
True story. I entered pageantry on a dare. I told some friends and family I was interested in competing in a national pageant. The responses that I received were nonchalant. Although, I have to give them credit because I really do have a lot of ideas that somehow always come to me when I’m in the shower. Despite being a little shaky on what I was doing or even why I was doing it, I won that pageant yall! I competed as Miss Mississippi in the American Beauties Plus Pageant and I won! I often play this moment back in my head and think “what if I never entered”?
Over the years, I have begun to be a junkie for those experiences. I seek them out. I am often asked how to get started in pageantry or modeling. I always tell ladies to research and just start. Sometimes it difficult to follow my own advice but whenever I have, I was proud of myself 100 percent of the time.
Did yall catch the Drake lyrics in the title? Have you ever noticed how smooth Drake’s beats are in most of his songs? I get serious sway vibes when listening. Let’s vibe like a Drake song.
Are there things that you have been waiting to do? What is holding you back from pursuing it? Comment above and let’s talk.
Until the outside opens …
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Day number 4,356 from the Pirtle Residence…….. So we have been in the house for a while now and I have lost count of what day it is but there is one thing I know for sure. Mommy shaming is at an all time high. Since starting my new job as a facebook scroll technical engineer, I have notated several things. I bet your wondering who Allison is right? Well, Allison is the parent who has some how became the parent police and multitasker of the century on social media as of lately. Allison has converted her home into a Pre-K classroom equip with multi colored paper, paint, crayons and all the play dough you would ever need. She has a fully functional amusement park in another room and blue tape outlined on the floor directing her student to the cafeteria for lunch. Not only is Allison rocking her new home school reality, she is also cooking three meals a day and doing yoga four times a week. WHO are you Allison!! Pre-Quarantine I considered myself to be a schedule master but guess what happens when there is nothing to schedule. Nothing, absolutely nothing. Three weeks inside and I am just starting to grasp this temporary normalcy. Did I mention that I am the mom of a 4 year old boy? Previous to last week, we were staying up until the early morning hours and sleeping through mid morning. Now, we are on a 10-4 kinda schedule and I can roll with this for a while. I am balancing making sure my son is learning, working from home, and dodging a virus that has caused a worldwide pandemic. I would say that maybe I am the super multitasker! Are we homeschooling everyday of the week? Nope. Do my 3 meals a day always include something cooked from scratch? Nope. Is my son having the time of his life while at home with mom and dad? Absolutely. So Allison, keep sharing all those cute pictures. We love the family time. However, all parents are different. They adjust to what is better for their children. For some, this may be the only time they have gotten to bond with their mom or dad. What do you guys think? Have you experienced this? Leave a comment. Until the outside opens, be safe.
“Back when the world made sense”